Why Am I So Bad At Conflict?

Are you proud of the way you handle conflict?

Have you ever felt your heart pounding during a heated argument, desperately searching for the right words to say? 

Do you fly off the handle, explode and say things you don’t really mean (closely followed by the pangs of regret)? 

Or do you retreat inside your shell, put your own needs aside and wait for the storm to pass?

We’re going to teach you something about yourself today.

To us, making the world a better place means using our expertise of the human mind to help you better understand yours. 

With more awareness, you can make wiser choices that make you (and everyone around you) happier.

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Have you ever thought about why you handle conflict the way you do?

Very often, the way we handle stress comes down to what was modelled to us. 

Conflict (or a lack of) inside of our family system leaves a lasting impact. 

Witnessing and experiencing aggressive or avoidant behaviour can often results in similar patterns developing within us later in life.

Importantly, it is never a name and blame scenario. Everyone (in this case, usually our caregivers or parents) is doing the best they can with the knowledge and resources they have.

But none the less, self understanding requires us to look a littler closer into the patterns that are at play. Self understanding is a prerequisite for self mastery.

This is why therapy is so important. 

A good therapist will help you identify the patterns that are outside of your view. And to help you figure out how to re-write your emotional script, so that you can handle conflict with control and grace.

Take a moment to consider where you learnt to navigate conflict. Does this pattern hinder or help you?

If you’re keen to get better at handling conflict — book a free introductory call today.